My wife and I each had plenty of opportunities growing up to loose our virginity but we both waited until marriage, when we were certainly not kids. The pros and cons of that are to follow.
Although I had studied a GREAT deal on the subject, like any horny guy, I had very little experience in the “practical application” department. So our honeymoon in a tiny motel in Green River Utah, (pop. 973), was a new and exciting experience for both of us. I watched her raptly as she removed her dress and unpinned her beautiful long hair. We then held each other in bed, kissed, and made-out for a while. This nearly 27 year old gringo caressing his thin wondrously sexy 25 year old Latina.
We had been at a heightened level of excitement for days now anticipating what was to come. She was also quite nervous and often remarked how she didn’t understand how she was going to get “that” (my penis) in “there” (her vagina). We relied on the fact that billions had boldly gone before without too much trouble so we ought to be able to figure it out.
I started by moving down her body, and we both experienced cunnilingus for the first time. I was hooked after the first lick. I could tell she loved it too. In fact we both liked it so much, me giving, and her receiving, that it became the number one thing for us to do. And it’s probably that which saved our sex life because try as I could I wasn’t able to “get it in” her.
Every attempt had her howling in pain. So we went to a specialist in Colorado to see if she had any issue. He and his female assistant took an inspection tour of her vulva and determined that the only thing wrong was her mental attitude. A condition called Vaginismus, sometimes Anglicized vaginism, the physical or psychological condition that affects a woman’s ability to engage in any form of vaginal penetration often due to fear of pain and/or belief that sex is “dirty”.
The doctor actually recommended she smoke marijuana to relax! Well we were both far too straight-laced to break the law so THAT, didn’t happen. However, looking back now, I’m quite sure a bit of “chronic” would’ve been just the thing to get us “over the hump” had we used it; strictly for “medicinal purposes” of course.
So for weeks we kept slowly trying to achieve penetration; we even used a set of didoes to practice with. It was a pretty trying time for us but we learned how to stimulate ourselves in other ways. And overcoming it together became a point of teamwork and strength.
Nearly a month after our marriage, while we both sat on the carpet, at the foot of our living room stairs, we finally joined together successfully, and gave each other our virginity. We both felt her hymen “pop”, tearing and allowing entrance, and a little blood was present, but the relief brought tears to our eyes. Over time intercourse became easier and easier. That was all years ago and we’re still together and still deeply in love.
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